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Hi guys so my partner (detail removed by moderator) strangulation assault threats to kill and to take my daughter and coercive control. And touching me inappropriate in my sleep. My mother reported this all and I couldn’t protect his behaviour anymore so I opened up. (detail removed by moderator) A part of me can’t stand him and wants to run as far away from him and his n**********c family. The other part of me wants him to change and come home once this is over. He bullies my mum and her bf constantly starts on me for seeing my mum and if her partner is there it’s WW3. We have a little baby together and I don’t want her growing up around this. Why do I keep wanting him home? Why do I miss him! I don’t know what to do. When we are good and I don’t see anyone he’s amazing and we get on like a house on fire aswell. We love each others company. But he just can’t take accountability and doesn’t see issues with his actions.
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Hi pinkbumblebee,
How you’re feeling is very normal. A part of abuse is this cycle or switching between the nasty, violent, assaulting behaviours and times where he seems like an amazing, perfect partner. This makes domestic abuse really confusing. You’re being hurt by the same person who is making you feel good, that can create a very strong bond and it makes sense that you’re missing him. Even in the good times, he is still controlling how you get to feel. It’s not okay that he only lets you feel happy when you’re not seeing anyone.
If you’re not already in touch with your local domestic abuse service, you might like to reach out to them for some ongoing support.
Take care and keep posting,
Lisa
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