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    • #104298
      Cantmakedecisons
      Participant

      Morning ladies,

      I’ve posted here a few times now and I will try and contact “live chat” today as advised by you all.

      I realised last night that this FOG, trauma bonding or whatever it is, goes as far back as childhood.

      I was (detail removed by moderator) and he was in his mid (detail removed by moderator) in a position of trust and I trusted him. We had a relationship for a long time – this also was abuse! I’ve never done anything about reporting him I just swept it under the carpet and moved on. I never wanted to expose him or ruin his life even though I have no loyalty to him? His still in a position of trust and the more I wonder about my own life now I think maybe I should log a report about him..

      I know I have more immediate matters to deal with but maybe dealing with this past trauma will give me strength to move forward?

    • #104300
      KIP.
      Participant

      Absolutely. My abuser was in a position of trust and you can bet there are other victims. You’re not that naive victim anymore.

    • #104301
      KIP.
      Participant

      And yes you’re hugely more likely to be a victim in adulthood if you were a victim as a child. Have you tried counselling?

    • #104302
      Cantmakedecisons
      Participant

      KIP – obviously this was a long time ago, how long do you have to report things?

      Also what about evidence?

      Or do I just report and let them deal with it..?

      I also think it will show my OH now that I’m stronger and ready to act.

    • #104303
      Cantmakedecisons
      Participant

      On waiting list through my IDVA

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