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      After years of abuse with my ex I got back to feeling like myself again. Then boom… confidence takes a hit. I have my moments obviously but just recently I found out my current partner signed up to a dating app. He recently lost his (detail removed by Moderator) and said he did it to take his mind off the grief. Now straight away I said it was no excuse and made him aware how hurt I was. Yes grief makes us do crazy things but again, it’s no excuse. I haven’t ended the relationship but it’s knocked me back. Makes me feel sick. My ex cheated on me multiple times and I don’t want a repeat of the past. I will be having one more conversation with my partner and basically telling him that I won’t be having that behaviour from him. I do feel I can forgive him, I don’t believe it has gone as far as meeting anyone. It still hurts though. Past hurt comes flooding back

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      Hello Losingbattle,

      I’m really sorry to hear about what’s happened and the impact it has had on your confidence. This is understandable and I imagine it’s brought up lots of old feelings.
      Trust and feeling safe in a relationship after experiencing abuse are incredibly important and it sounds like this incident has really affected these areas.

      I hope you are doing okay this evening.

      Take care and keep posting,

    • #163330

      That sounds a tough time. I have lots of triggers in my daily life and my current relationship and it’s difficult to deal with.
      Take very good care of yourself.

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