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Oh my darling…
I don’t know because I’m pretty almost anorexic and alcoholic right now
I’ve been always slim but right now I’m just a skeletor
Opposite way,he makes me feel sick of food,I can’t take it
My anxiety is just smoke and drink beer
I can’t take the food anymore,just the necessary to not be dead…I have a massive knot in my stomach
But I understand no one acts the same,someone eats lots,someone drinks and smokes lots,someone just gets on drugs…
It’s all the same s**t
I don’t blame you,please,just take care of yourself
Lots of love and kisses
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My 2 daughters put on weight as a result of abuser’s behaviors. He’d start and they’d be affected by his behaviors and I’d see them eating before my eyes. I too would reach for sweet sugary things without realizing it. My daughter has been abroad for a year and she has lost all the weight. She is calm, happy and in such a good place away from her abuser-dad.
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I’m like Bethesda. I lost a lot of weight over the last 18 months because of the stress and him constantly messaging young beautiful women. It made me feel like I wasn’t attractive. So I lost weight partly for me and health reasons and partly to try to get his attention / affection. He never even commented on my weight loss. Until he realised I was looking quite good and I attracted attention from someone at a gathering we were at and that was the end of us after he attacked me in front of everyone. Still smoke and drink too much and stayed the same weight since he went. Woolly, are you out or planning to be? It’s horrible having your life controlled like that and if you’re unhappy with your weight. I joined a slimming club and found it a great help. Xx
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It can swing either way. I find it makes a huge difference to be believed. At the moment I’ve had that so knocked out of me that looking after myself is nigh on impossible.
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Yes absolutely, he controlled my food intake especially tightly towards the end, denying me money to buy food for myself and our children – I was a stay at home mum temporarily thus financially dependent of him. I lost weight. Then when my very young children started to loose weight too, my heart broke, panic attacks set in, big alarms bells went off and we fled the situation fairly quickly. Literally for survival.
I am sorry he did the opposite to you.
To loose your weight, if you don’t mind me suggesting following tips:
• Drink plenty of water, first thing in the morning to detox your entire body.
• eat plenty during the day then only eat vegetables and fruits and protein in the evening. No carbohydrates intake in the evening will lead to steady long term weight loss.
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Oh my word yes. Food was controlled for me too. I was on this roller coaster. When we first met I was a small size, then I needed “fattening up”, then when my clothing sizes went to a 14 I was yo fat, hideous and ugly.
Then I’d work on my diet, exercise only to be sabotaged by him buying food that he knew I didn’t want to eat. When I got upset about it he’d say but your working so hard I got you a treat as a reward.
If I didn’t eat it, I’d get blamed, shouted at for shirking his kindness. If I did eat it I’d get blamed for not working hard enough to reduce my weight. It was vicious cycle of abuse and self loathing.
When I was close to leaving I was so distraught, lack of sleep etc I stopped 3 clothing sizes in a month. It was to quick but I was so stressed.
Now that I’ve left I’m a much happier, healthier version of myself 😊
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