Really confused after couples counselling

[Grapevine456]

Has anybody had couples counselling? Did it help you to work through things? Or am I wasting my money?
I have been told that my children are reading fear from me and I should be strong around them so they know I can keep them safe.
I feel so confused, like I might be imagining things and that me retreating from my partner is bring misconstrued by him as me not being interested and therefore making things worse.
I have such a strong instinct to run away and take the children but I know I won’t do it.
Oh how do I get out of this its driving me insane.

[TiredZiggy]

I refused counselling with my husband. A few years back I suggested it and he told me the counsellor would see that I’m unhinged and take his side. Since then he’s suggested it a few times but what he said had stuck in my mind. He’s so charismatic, people love him. He also is able to stay incredibly calm when I’m more the emotional one. I went and tried to get counselling on my own. The waiting list was too long though so I had to take charge myself and I read lots and lots of books and turned to family for support.

[Grapevine456]

Thanks Tired Ziggy. I just don’t know whether its helpful. Our first session was really difficult. I went first and he sat making notes so he could rebuke what I was saying. Yesterday I felt I was being g told to get a grip and stop feeling frightened and just get on with it.
Almost feel like I’m imagining things though then I look at the messages he has sent and think of the things he says and I believe I am not.
Like you my partner I’d charismatic and be very charming so people dont see what I see.
Well done for standing your ground. I hoped that I might see things more clearly but that’s not been the case so far..

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