I have just found M Scott Peck, the quotations are going to change my thinking, please do take the time to have a look at some of his quotes. Here is another one, this reminds me of where my ex would admit nothing and blame me for everything, common with abusers.
“Whenever we seek to avoid the responsibility for our own behavior, we do so by attempting to give that responsibility to some other individual or organization or entity. But this means we then give away our power to that entity.”
― M. Scott Peck, The Road Less Traveled: A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values, and Spiritual Growth