Received ex’s mail

[Purplecupcake]

Hi all not sure what to do in this situation and could use some advice.

I moved house to escape my abusive ex, but I received a letter for my ex at my new address. Not sure what to do to as I don’t want him knowing where I live and my address is printed on the letter.

It says confidential on the envelope so I figure it must be something important, but not sure how to get the letter to him without him seeing my new address.

any suggestions??

[minimeerkat]

dont know if this suggestion is any good at all

i have had to return to sender myself.  so wondering if you could use a black marker or something to hide your address on the envelope & return to sender – but actually put it inside another envelope with a brief note explaining the importance of your new address not to be disclosed to your ex partner because of domestic abuse & your safety?

[minimeerkat]

p.s. assuming you know your ex’s address & therefore able to give them this so they can change the address & resend it (without yours being anywhere to be seen)

[minimeerkat]

oh no! seen a reply & hope you understood i meant put the unopened letter inside one addressed to the sender!  and also realize that if its a window type envelope then using a marker pen to delete your address will then not be possible x

 

[Bananaboat]

(detail removed by moderator). Can always say you didn’t see the name as only you live at the address. Wouldn’t normally say (detail removed by moderator) but then you’ll know what it is and who to contact. Safer than returning to sender and them forwarding it on with your address. Some system or someone has linked you together and if it’s from a credit card it may link him & your address in a credit file which you don’t want. Hopefully it’s just junk mail x

[Hereforhelp]

I had this, lots of his letters started to arrive at my address after we separated… aa it is against the law to open anyone else’s mail, I binned it .. I owe him nothing and he can sort his own mail.  If it is that important he will chase whatever it is up.

 

[Sad and alone]

I’d be wondering how mail is coming to him at your new address if he doesn’t know it? Does it have details of who the sender is? Is it somewhere you recognise as having a joint interest in before like a bank? If there’s just an address and no name googling the return address should tell you what company. Then if you still have an interest with that company, bank account for example, which was previously a joint interest, you  could contact them and confirm it is only your address that has changed and not your ex’s and explain you believe they may have sent mail to you for him by mistake. You could also ask them to note the circumstances of separation to ensure they don’t divulge information to him.
Boy, that sounds confusing! But hopefully you understand what I mean.

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