Hi jsscollie,
Staying close to this Forum by posting and reading the posts will strengthen you and change your thinking. I thought every human person thought like me. I didn’t know that abusers have a different agenda to us. I didn’t know that my ex-husband got a kick out of seeing me hurt and in distress. Reading the posts on here keeps my awareness up. I recognize my abusers patterns and behaviours in all of the abuser’s mentioned on here by the other ladies. The abusers are not special. They are not unique. They are boringly similar.
My default personality is to put up with unacceptable behaviour. Unacceptable behaviour towards me has a ring of normality because I was reared in an environment of unacceptable behaviour. And my father put up with unacceptable behaviour, so I learned to put up with it also.
This Forum reminds me not to tolerate unacceptable behaviour but I can forget from day to day, so I need to keep touching base with this Forum very, very regularly.
You are finding today hard but it is good you reached out for support. You deserve as much support as you can get so keep posting when you need to.