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    • #115803

      Does remembering the good times confuse you about what really happened in the relationship? Do you ever question if something is wrong with you, or you are a bad person?
      I’m struggling here.

    • #115805

      There’s nothing wrong with you and you’re not a bad person. I’m sure there were good times otherwise we wouldn’t stay. The good times could be the love bombing phase. Either way those memories are yours to keep. Doesn’t change he’s an abuser. Doesn’t mean that loving him would stop the abuse. It gets easier x

    • #115809

      Yes I do that too but as the distance between us goes it happens less and less. Doubt creeps in when big things happen can’t say more doe to risk. When it does I re read my notes my emails to services statement etc I remind myself it’s my brain trying to cope and make it ok by blaming myself but it’s not ok and I’m
      Trying to live in the truth the horrible truth of what we’ve been through – not easy but real – I also laugh/sob that I did nothing wrong but blame myself he is a monster but never once blames himself/admits takes responsible for what he’s done and who he is …It’s not you x

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        Thank you for the replies xx

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