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He says he will have my child removed from me. This is my biggest fear. Everyone tells me this is ridiculous however I read in places ‘he had kids removed from her care’ ‘she no longer has her kids’. How can I prove his abuse….what if I can’t prove it and he DOES get my child? This is driving me insane.
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I think every woman on this site had the same threat used. It’s empty threats they know will hurt you. There is absolutely no substance behind it. Blowing hot air. Looking for a reaction. Don’t give him one. Total nonsense X talk to a family solicitor for reassurance. Most do half hour free consultation. Speak to women’s aid helpline. Don’t worry. That’s why he’s saying these things. Did he say this in a text or email? Any witnesses? Keep all the evidence you can.
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Ok, it’s just my worst fear and he’s so b****y clever. He twists everything and I mean everything. I have got emails where he’s hinting at it I used to have a lot more but accidentally swiped delete on my apple phone and can’t recover. So worried as it was vital evidence but still have a little bit X
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I had this threat too and it also was my worst fear. It really is agony isn’t it, going through the anxiety of losing your children to him. KIP is right. Thats what he wants. Remember anything our abusers do is with the aim to worry, hurt and upset us and trigger our fear and anxiety. They get a ‘high’ from our distress. Don’t let him see this threat of losing your children gets to you. Pretend. But post on here and read the posts as much as you can to help lessen that fear.
My abuser didn’t get his way even though he had left no stone unturned to carry out this threat. He is not as powerful as he or you think. The main thing is for you to stay well by ringing Women’s Aid and posting on here for support. When you are well and emotions are calm his dysfunction will show clearly.
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Recovering texts from iPhone……..
As a good housekeeper you’ve deleted all your old text messages, and then realised that you do – in fact – need some or all of your old messages. Well fear not. You can recover deleted text messages from your iPhone. Indeed, it’s possible you can do so without having recourse to anything more difficult than restoring from backup. And at worst you may be able to get those messages back using a third-party app.
I’m not technically minded but perhaps you can get someone at the Apple Store to help you X 👍
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I am awaiting for a call to get restraining order in motion (detail removed by moderator) saying he was reporting me to sservices and standing on my doorstep ringing the bell (whilst I was on the phone to the helpline). My friends have seen him loitering around outside my home. I’m scared. Feel so drained and exhausted….
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If it’s an Apple phone and you deleted it, you might still manage to find it by going to ‘all mail.’
These abusers threaten to take our kids because they are going for the jugular; they are jealous of the way we love our kids.
It takes something very serious for a child to be taken from their mother. Don’t let him scare you. Have faith in your own value and worth as a mother. X
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I do still have evidence on FB messenger, whatsapp, emails, and some texts (as he used two phones to message me from) I’m grateful it never occurred to him that this would be used as evidence. I did call apple and my carrier and there is nothing to be done about the lost ones. This is important! Your messages aren’t backed up unless you are plugged into a computer and you do it manually and then if you ever delete you can retrieve 👌🏻
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