So often, abusers get away with their abuse and it’s really important to keep a diary or some record of what’s happening in the relationship. I didn’t write things down when I thought everything was ok. At the moment, patterns of abuse aren’t recognised as criminal. It won’t always be that way, and one day, these patterns we’ve recorded will be able to be used as evidence. I am optimistic that the law will change. If coercive control is to be taken seriously it has to. Domestic Abuse is a societal problem. It’s still taboo.
I think it’s important to report the ‘small’ stuff, the covert aggression, the things that on the face of it are meaningless unless it is part of a familiar pattern. One day, these patterns will be recognised for what they are. One day the world will be a safer place for women and children.