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      This is a bit of a random post but I heard Rihanna’s song ‘complicated’ this song a few years ago and it captured what I was feeling at that moment. Eventhough I’m out of denial now (but still with him), I had a flashback of some of the lyrics and I can still relate to parts of the song such as:

      “You’re not easy to love, no”

      “Why is everything with you so complicated
      Why do you make it hard to love you
      Oh I hate it
      ‘Cause if you really wanna be alone
      I will throw my hands up ‘Cause baby I tried
      But everything with you is so complicated
      Oh why”

      “Sometimes I get you
      Sometimes I don’t understand
      Sometimes I love you
      Sometimes it’s you I can’t stand
      Sometimes I wanna hug you
      Sometimes I wanna push you away
      Most times I wanna kiss you
      Other times punch you in the face” <<< (although I DARE NOT to – ever!)

      Sounds like trauma bonding. Which I’m in.

    • #15839

      hi whathaveidone, it’s strange – or possibly not so strange – but i often think back to this song too. i’m not with my abuser anymore, but when i was with him the lyrics would capture how i was feeling.

      most recently i found Justin Bieber’s song ‘Love Yourself’ bringing him to the forefront of my mind, but in a way that makes me feel free. i guess the lyrics to that capture how i’m feeling now that i’m out of the relationship.

      sending u hugs & strength ❤

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