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    • #72904
      ChunkyMonkey
      Participant

      My ex wasn’t ever physically abusive but mentally and emotionally and I’ve just about managed to escape him after a long time and moved away from him, but I found out that I’m pregnant and he’s now found out too (that’s a whole other mess to talk about) so he’s not only doing everything he can to try and contact me (although I’ve cut all ties) he’s now stalking my family and trying to contact them any way possible he drove up and down my one family members street over 20 times to see if I was there, he came to where I’m living now and waited outside for hours. I’m scared for myself, my family and of course now this baby. Any help? Support? Anything right now would be a comfort I just feel so scared.

    • #72906
      ashestobeauty
      Participant

      Good morning CM, so sorry to hear of this awful situation. Have you contacted the police? This guy sounds very determined to frighten you and your family. This cannot go on. There are laws against this behaviour now.
      Please take care of yourself and your

    • #72907
      ashestobeauty
      Participant

      baby. Xx

    • #72909
      KIP.
      Participant

      Time to contact the police. Do not admit he is the father and do not put his name on the birth certificate. Get some good free legal advice from Rights for Women who have a free legal helpline. Ring the police immediately. Ask for a domestic abuse officer. Don’t let things escalate.

    • #72928
      Lisa
      Main Moderator

      Hi there

      Welcome to the forum, I hope you find it a supportive place to be.

      What he is doing is stalking and harassment. You have fled an abusive relationship and you deserve to feel safe. He shouldn’t be driving around looking for you and waiting outside your home.

      You have a right to privacy and a right to report this to the police. You can call the National Domestic Violence Helpline on 0808 2000 247. Calls are answered by trained female support workers. They won’t tell you what to do but can talk things through.

      Take care and keep posting

      Best Wishes
      Lisa

    • #72930
      fizzylem
      Participant

      Please report this to the Police CM. Keep his name off the birth cert and go it alone – being a single parent is tough, but it is 10x harder when there is an abusive father in your lives too. Hugs x

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