Seeking others recovering from abuser’s suicide

[Sycamore1234]

Hello, I’m new to the forum and grateful for this platform to connect with other women who are trying to make sense of really complicated traumatic situations. Thank you for sharing so openly and honestly.

I’m looking to connect with women whose partners died by suicide as part of their abuse. On leaving my long time partner (detail removed by Moderator), he was arrested for stalking me, and then died by suicide to punish me. We have a young daughter together and I’ve spent the past year helping us recover and try to make sense of the mess he left us in. Due to his smear campaign against me while he was alive (detail removed by Moderator), his friends continued his abuse through further harassment. I still feel unsafe and on guard in my own community and city.

Recovery from this kind of abuse is nuanced and due to the complicated grief mixed with the trauma of domestic abuse, I can’t quite find networks that understand me and the situation. Suicide bereavement networks want to honour their loved ones and in some circles, I’m told I should feel lucky that he’s gone. That is a very complicated statement especially as my daughter is grieving her dad.

I’m sorry if you have experienced this unique kind of abuse and keen to connect with you if you have – either through this thread or a personal message.

Thank you.

[Lisa]

Hi Sycamore1234,

Thank you for your post and I’m sorry to hear about your situation. I can understand you are sitting with complicated feelings of grief- no matter what he put you through it sounds like you are left with the aftermath and having to process what happened. I hope you do find the forum helpful and are able to connect with others.

You can access free online courses created by or in partnership with therapists specialising in trauma at Bloom. These courses can be accessed in your own time and at your own pace and cover topics such as trauma, abuse and boundaries.

Best Wishes

Lisa

[Sycamore1234]

Thank you Lisa! Bloom is amazing – thank you for the recommendation and the message of support.

If you do happen to see anyone who posts on a similar experience, please do encourage them to reach out.

[Itisonlyme]

I’m so nervous to post this but Sycamore I have joined this forum (after years of only using WA phone/email)mostly specifically for your post – I was searching for ANYONE who had been through an experience even a tad similar to mine. Currently it’s unknown to me for a 100% fact if it was accident or suicide (threatened to do it many times) so please bare this in mind. But I really do think we should chat because it seems we have both had a similar story. Although I admire the fact you have kids. I don’t know if I could of been as strong had I had children. Please if able to do so message me anytime.

[Sycamore1234]

I’ll message you!

[Kissfist2024]

Hi.

My daughter and I are survivors of abuse exploitation abduction and suicide.

Your story sounds so similar to mine I have chills.

Please contact me any time publicly or privately.

[Sycamore1234]

Hi KissFist, I’ve just messaged you x

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