Shut out of my children’s lives

[SilkyHalide]

Had to snoop on social media to find out what’s going on.

[Lisa]

Hi SilkyHalide,

I just wanted to offer some support as it must be so heartbreaking for you being away from your children. Your posts show that you are an amazing woman and a wonderful mother and I hope that your situation will change for the better in the future.

During this very challenging time I hope you can surround yourself with as much support as possible and focus on looking after yourself. Distraction may be helpful as well. If you have not done so already, you may find counselling helpful, or there is a good service with a helpline for parents called Family Lives; 0808 800 2222

Kind Regards and Keep Posting,

Lisa

[Healthyarchive]

Dear SilkyHalide, I am so sorry to hear this. I do hope that someday this can be changed so that you can see your children more. XXXXX

[Serenity]

Hi Silky,

Lisa suggested Family Lives, and they are a brilliant support.

You could also try speaking to the NSPCC about your kids being brainwashed.

It must be so hurtful for you. But please don’t let this take away from you as a person.

We were individuals before we met our exes or had our children. I think the key to finding strength when we are abused by our exes or mistreated by our children is to try to get back to that place from where we first began- before we met our horrible abusers and began our prison sentence of being with them.

We need to try our hardest to rediscover that self-love and acceptance and self- compassion, to get to get point here we realise our own value ( however imperfect we are) and feel passionately about setting our boundaries and refusing to be abused.

I think by finding our individuality again we will become strong. The most important aspect of this is that we will be happy. But a possible aside to this is that I think
our kids notice the change and will be more likely to respect us. Unfortunately, our exes brainwash our kids about our weakened victim state, teaching them to disrespect this. If our kids see us questioning ourselves and taking on guilt that’s not ours, they will not have confidence in our version of events.

Make it your pledge to yourself to enjoy every day you have on this earth as much as possible, and to accept yourself. Be your own best friend.

Keep talking when you need to. X

[godschild]

Hi Silky, I can understand a little of what you feel, I am getting better times with my Daughter now but not seen my son for (removed by moderator) months, He is not a friend on FB either , I get a sneak at twitter but he does not post on there very often.

We have bumped into two different people that know him in the last week and I have been told he has been unwell by them both, nothing long standing but its hard for others to tell you your own child however old has been unwell.

Abuse fragments lots of families in many ways, moms seem to often to get treated so unfairy by their children over it, i know I have been andI really feel for you, I hope and pray that one day your children will see the truth and he will be the one to loose then and you get them back sending hugs xxxxx

[SilkyHalide]

Thanks all for your replies. Well another 3 contact days ruined.
Those poor children are so manipulated and confused.

[Tuppance]

Dear Silky
I am really saddened to read what you are going through – it scares me that they can manipulate children in such a way. Surely after all we go through we should not then have to fight so hard for our little ones. I wish you all the strength to help you through. X

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