Hi Startingtogo,
Thank you for posting. I’m really sorry to hear about your situation. Abusive men don’t like to lose control- its understandable you are feeling shaken- you deserve to move on and to feel safe.
If you haven’t yet got in touch with your local domestic abuse service now might be a good time; you could ask them what support is available, if there are any recovery programmes or counselling you could access.
You can also access free online courses created by or in partnership with therapists specialising in trauma at Bloom. These courses can be accessed in your own time and at your own pace and cover topics such as trauma, abuse and boundaries.
Keep posting,
Lisa