So much information but nothing happening

[summerbreeze]

So I finally did it! I left ! Me and my LO have fleed to a different city where I am currently being put by a family member.
They themselves live in shared accommodation so this is very much a temporary situation.
I have been in contact with several different services and I’m trying to find refuge so I don’t have to go back to the city I have fled from and then I can get everything in order to live my best life.
However… all these numbers I’m being given and email addresses not a single response or no answer. I managed to get through to 1 refuge to be told 3 others are ahead of me. So now I feel stuck and I feel that I am getting no where.

[Lisa]

Hello Summerbreeze,

Congratulations for leaving, I’m sure this took a lot of courage and bravery. It’s good to hear that you are currently somewhere safe.

I’m so sorry to hear that you are experiencing issues with accessing refuge. It can be such a stressful and consuming experience.

Sadly we know how underfunded these services are and there are currently far more women seeking refuge than there are refuge spaces available, so you are not alone in this.

I’d encourage you to persevere with the calls if you have the energy and capacity to do so, and you might also want to consider speaking to your local domestic abuse service about the possibility of being assigned a case worker to help.

I hope things improve for you soon.

Take care and keep posting,
Lisa

[summerbreeze]

Thankyou Lisa,
It is so heart breaking how underfunded this area is and when your in the situation trying to seek the help it really does show how the demand is so much higher than what is available.
I will continue to try and womens aid have been such help in even helping me find help in the first place as I was clueless. I’m in hope for a support worker again the service I have contacted seem extremely busy but hopefully I will see some progress next week.
Many thnakyou
SB

[Twisted Sister]

Hi summerbreeze

The situation changes every day, so you never know when one will come available for you. Its heartbreaking that there are too many women fleeing abuse for the refuge spaces availabe. I also believe that there are possibly a lot more women becoming aware of their abusive situations.

Had you considered having him removed from the property you left, as I believe its possible for him to have made himself homeless by being abusive, so you could apply for an occupation order?

If you can get some help from your local domestic abuse support they would be able to help you with both.

Sadly and very stressfully and frustratingly loads of organisations are all about signposting, and it can feel like being sent around in circles. At first it feels so hopeful being given so many contacts! but as you go through a tell your situation to each and then get offered further signposting instead of help, it can grind you down real quick.

Keep at it for the refuge space though, and some local DA support, but give yourself a break too whenever you can. Get out in the fresh air as much as you can too, you and your LO need to find some fun stuff to do whilst you have all the challenges.

warmest wishes

ts

[summerbreeze]

Hi twisted sister,
Thankyou so much for taking time to read my situation and responding. It’s so greatly appreciated.
I haven’t considered getting order to get him removed, that’s a thought, I am however reluctant due to previous physical threats of harm if I was to go back. I am aware I can get the police involved maybe get a restraining order but as I’m so far away and he doesn’t know where I am I currently am investing my energy into trying to find housing/ refuge.
It is so true about the signposting. That is exactly how it feels like I’m going round in circles. I think today I am going to have a break from it and just focus on getting some fresh air and just having a break as it can all become so overwhelimg.
Take care and thankyou again

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