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I very very recently met with social services who are going to talk to the kids at school very very soon. Since talking to them my husband has done something that scared me. I thought he punched one of them (it looked like that from behind) but both he and the child say he pulled his hand off something agressively, hurting the child.
I’m not sure what to do. I can’t call the help line as he is here at home. i cant go out and call because that means leaving him at home with the kids even though they are in bed. I’m scared if i dont call the police then social services will find out when they talk to them anyway and ill be in trouble for not reporting / keeping them safe / leaving. on the other hand i am scared what wll happen if i call the police and they arent that concerned because then im left in a house with him knowing i called the police on him.
I feel so so scared and sick
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Hey you …. this is difficult because both the child and he agree on what happened. Do you think the child is lying because they are afraid? I think, but I don’t know, that if you document it what you saw, the attitude of. both of them. Their account of what happened – note your action and reason for taking or not taking action then at least you can explain your actions to whoever needs to ask also doing this way may help you to decide whether to report it. I would have thought as their stories match that maybe a note might go on file but nothing more as there isn’t anything to go on but they hold this information incase of a future issue. I am not sure if this helps at all but am sending you a hug. Xx
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Magnolio please stay calm. No children deserve to be hurt you have done the right thing hun . X
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You did do the right thing. He hurt your child. Your conscience is clear. He has a history of aggression. It’s now noted. You called them because you feared for your child’s safety. The police obviously think something is wrong because they removed him to prevent a breach of the peace. You need to work on leaving him. I always got punished for crossing my ex. Maybe not right away but it will come. Stay safe X
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They only removed him because of the beverages he had consumed and because they feared that that might fuel retaliation of some sort when they left. Today he can come back though. Dreading the backlash that will bring. I’m locked in the house now so I’m safe with the kids. Thought the divorce would get him out a LOT quicker than this but its been way too many months now. Got to break the news to the kids and dreading it. Also got to break it to them that a social worker is coming to school to talk to them. This is going to be so hard on them.
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I’m going to call now. I think a non molestation order might take too long though. Police said they can put an order in place if they get lots more call outs about him but it takes a while and costs £1000 ish which i just don’t have. I’m also going to call my solicitor. Just told the kids daddy has gone to stay with his parents for a few days because we had an argument for now. One is devastated and the other (the one he hurts) hardly seems bothered at all… yet. That may change though. So scared they are going to grow up blaming me and hating me. they mean the world to me and i don’t think I can cope with them hating me. Or blaming themselves. One of them said “this is becuse of what happened last night isnt it” but I’ve made it clear that this is nothing to do with them and that mummy and daddy have lots of reasons why they argued last night.
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