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      PaleBlueStar
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      My case was referred to Social services.

      I spoke to this lovely social worker today who was concerned about both children.

      He favours our daughter and he felt that it was a very unhealthy relationship. And he felt that my husband had committed offences against our son. Abuse of a minor.

      So they are arranging for social workers to see them in school as they can’t come here. He’s always here watching, monitoring, controlling.

      Do SS have the power to ask for the perpetrator to be removed? I’d love him out.

      Every professional I’ve spoken to has said the situation is serious.

      Star ⭐️

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      Soulsearcher18
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      PaleBlueStar

      Thank you for sharing on forum. I am sorry to hear about your situation.

      In answer to your question, I am not sure exactly but I would think so. However, they would have to be very sure that you wouldn’t let him back in. My initial response was that YOU have the power to have him removed and if this is how you feel, you should express it to them and they can support you to get it done.

      You would definitely benefit from some independent advice and support however, I would strongly encourage you to contact Women’s Aid, either through the Domestic abuse helpline, or the webchat, or use the directory on the website to find and contact your local Domestic abuse service.

      If you struggle to get the opportunity to do this, to get chance to contact services then definitely let social services know how you feel. You can also book regular appointments with your GP and ask them to help you too, perhaps refer you into local DA services. I am just thinking that if you perpetrator keeps tabs, it may be easier for you to book a GP appointment – for ‘back pain’ or whatever and then it gives you some space to talk freely. Social services can also refer you into your local DA services too, in fact- it may be that you get seen quicker if a referral is made by a service. When ringing independently, it can take time to get through to and access support.

      I don’t want to alarm you if you have not thought of this but it could be that you could seek refuge whilst they get him out as sometimes this can take time. However, I am not fully aware of your situation and all involved, so I just encourage you to seek DA support so you have someone to guide you through this.

      I hope this helps. If this is the way you are feeling then please seek help asap to express this and get support to take action. From social services point of view, I imagine they would be relieved that you feel this way because he is the problem- remove him and they can then support you and the children without barriers.

      Good luck, let us know how you get on and do keep posting if you are unsure. There are a lot of us on here , all with different experiences and suggestions etc.

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