Starting to panic!

[Bluebirds]

I’m getting this worrying feeling today like oh god what have I done?! Were both not speaking to each other only when I need to go up house and get things.

He messaged me (detail removed by Moderator) said he seen me driving about and asked if I was meeting someone (I was not out). Possibly a tactic?! I just really hope this is right it’s very very real now!! It’s only been a few weeks but this is definitely it.

[Bluebirds]

Also thoughts of am I over reacting? Have I read up on it too much? Listened too many podcasts or things online… 🙁

[Bluebirds]

Just re read some of lundys book. Feel a whole lot better about my decision now. Feel so sad, I’m absolutely mortified that I have endured so much for so long! He’s taken so much from me 🙁

[Better-days]

Bluebirds I hope u are ok. What you have done takes a huge amount of bravery you should be proud iv yourself. I understand when you say maybee you have read  into it too much ect I feel that sometimes and I havnt even left yet.  Give yourself time and be proud

[Bluebirds]

Thankyou better days! That means so much. I am proud but feeling so lost and alone. He’s all I knew my whole adult life I don’t know life without him. This is huge for me but yes it will take time 🙁

It’s strange isn’t it thinking you’ve read too much into it maybe that’s the guilt setting in?

[Busymamtrying]

Bluebirds sorry I didn’t read this! I’m new here 🤗 & loving this forum, hope you are too!  I was with my ex all my adult life too and it can seem impossible but how long are you both broken up? It’s been nearly (detail removed by moderator) for me but l only moved into my own place after (detail removed by moderator) and this is when I saw the real him but the anxiety is still so real and I’m on medication for depression but I promise you time does help you and I’m being advised lately to keep myself together especially for myself and for the children, I didn’t listen to advice before because he wouldn’t let me but now that I am, it’s getting easier and I’m taking each day at a time, I also journal and meditate and have started walking and going to a sauna to relax, getting enough sleep too is helping, fingers crossed we will see way brighter days ahead xxxx

[Busymamtrying]

Hi girls,

I feel the very same as you Bluebirds, he’s so manipulative, plays the victim and has someone new just to drink with and make me and my daughters feel awful, his behaviour is unacceptable and I’m trying to keep everything together but it is very hard, being on your own as a single parent with (detail removed by moderator) is not easy especially when he has manipulated me and the girls and is trying to get into my sons head, he moved back in with his parents and has reverted to being a teenager and letting his mother rare our son, my daughters want nothing to do with him and my son is (detail removed by moderator) and the sweetest boy and loves me and his sisters a lot but if he had his way I would have been signed into hospital and left with nothing, luckily I have the best support and a stable job but he hates this and does not want to lose control over me or the kids and is lashing out so immaturely, it’s hard to keep your head but since I gained back my independence this is getting easier, I’m also developing new hobbies and seeing a psychologist so I can be strong enough for what’s ahead financially, fingers crossed this will happen for you too once you get past the hard stage of him pretending to be obsessive so he can get his own way, you are brave and strong and he cannot handle this, I feel your pain xx

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