25th September 2020 at 2:50 am #114276HelaParticipant
Hi,new to forum. Managed to block a lot for many years but now memories coming non stop.. like a flood and don’t know how to deal:(
Just had a meltdown over not being able find ear defenders (have (detail removed by moderator)) at 2.30am!
Anxiety off the scale,patience reduced,memories getting more intense- does any one have any tips for stopping,dealing with them? Waiting for counselling but list is long and feel like I’m losing my mind! Too many people depend on me for that to happen!
25th September 2020 at 4:47 pm #114296LisaMain Moderator
I just wanted to show you some support with all of this. Try to remember you’re not alone; so many women struggle with their mental health and getting back to ‘normal’ after abuse. The healing process can take time.
That’s great that you’re on the list for counselling. If you haven’t tried them already your local domestic abuse service might have access to specialist domestic abuse counselling which you might find helpful.
There’s also the Samaritans if you ever need to just talk to someone.
Please do keep reaching out for support,
25th September 2020 at 8:58 pm #114319HelaParticipant
Hi Lisa, thank you. X
27th September 2020 at 8:08 am #114368HazydayzParticipant
Hi Helga, Sorry your where your at right now. Feeling as you do. Your not alone. I’m waiting for Councelling too, but no tips to help sorry, other than…ear plugs? Would that be same as ear defenders? More discreet! Whoever it is? can go on and on at you and not see that you can’t hear them. might work for you? If that’s a big part of the problem? Just wanted to show you some support. I see Lisa has too. Good luck! Stay safe!💞
27th September 2020 at 10:03 pm #114424ChasingrainbowsParticipant
Hi Hela, and Hazydayz…
It’s all part of the process but it is intense isn’t it?! My Dr suggested writing everything down to ‘get it all out’ which is helping me enormously. I’ve only been away few weeks and was surprised how quickly memories came flooding in. All of a sudden too, when doing something random something sparks them off. I found writing it down did indeed get it out. I have a notebook I carry round the house with me and scribble everything down. I’m not rereading anything as yet and don’t care if I write a memory more than once. It feels like getting them down on paper means I don’t have to keep remembering them.
Hang on in there both. It will pass. Xx
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