Having bad day. I lost a close family member recently and it’s almost a year since I last saw my ex but nowhere near getting closure. Sorting the funeral has really triggered me, seeing photos of us , having to discuss possibilities of ex pitching up at funeral with funeral directors etc. Makes me angry that he can impact even on this. I’ve had good support but feel I’ve taken several steps backwards this week.
I am so sorry to hear of the passing of your family member. I know how difficult it is to deal with this, having so much to do, so many memories that come back to you, and the constant not knowing what your ex will do if anything. I know it is easier said than done, but all you can do is deal with one thing at a time as they need dealing with. Just concentrate of making what arrangements you have to, taking care of yourself, and if the ex rears his head at the funeral deal with it then, it will not help trying to figure out what he will do, as you know how unpredictable they can be.
Just concentrate on the here and now which is all you can do at the moment.
Thank you. I have spoken to funeral directors and they were lovely.Ex police, really seemed to understand abuse, they have a photo of ex and will deal with him
He would need to be arrested if turns up as it is against my orders.