Subtle Put Downs

[Beachandbobs]

Husband is a master of the subtle put down. I’m tired of it.

Just needed to vent.

[Stargazing1]

@Beachandbobs , I can relate to this too .

[tryingtosleep]

Just an idea but have you kept a record of these?
It might make you feel better – more in control at least? X

[Chocolatebunnie]

Definitely keep a record as tryingtosleep says it helps remind yourself that it’s a pattern and not you that’s the problem.

But yes definitely relate xx

[Beachandbobs]

I used to keep a record on my phone of his behaviour but my phone is synced to our iPad and I got worried he would see it and so I deleted it.
I really regret it as it’s harder to remember all the bad stuff when you are in the calm part of the abuse cycle.

[Chocolatebunnie]

Agree with you, he uses all my tech but I don’t know the password to his phone and wouldn’t feel comfortable snooping anyway. But for that reason, no privacy, that’s why I post on here, it’s not just support from you lovely ladies but being able to read posts going back and remembering why I’m here really helps.

[Stargazing1]

Thank you for the feedback @tryingtosleep and @Chocolatebunnie .

[Stargazing1]

The put downs make me not happy about myself.

[Bananaboat]

Subtle ones are the worst because they swirl around your brain and you over analyse them. Try a passive aggressive comment back to him sometime 😉

[Stargazing1]

Thanks @Bananaboat 😊 .

[Stargazing1]

He does make me dislike myself alot .

[Stargazing1]

All this stuff that goes on can make us feel rubbish.

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