25th August 2021 at 5:05 pm #130579justNeedSomeSupportParticipant
I got married in (detail removed by moderator) and came to UK on dependent visa in (detail removed by moderator).im still on spouse visa. I have 2 kids. It was an arranged marriage, a typical arranged marriage when we got engaged (detail removed by moderator) after we first met. Soon after engagement itself I kind of knew its not going to be happily ever after. But I thought everything will be alright after marriage.
All the abuses only increased day by day after marriage. He always says bad about my parents and always made me feel bad and not good. Always tried to insult me in front of his friends. I always need to agree what he says. In every house there will be difference of opinion but if I raise my voice he will be so much abusive and says I am provoking him. Its both physical and mental abuse. He will be completely drunk on (detail removed by moderator) and he is most abusive when he is drunk and says I am the reason he drink so mucb
But he behaves nice to my kids.
Always says bad things about me to our friends so everyone thinks I am bad. Most of his friends make sarcastic comments when I go to their houses.. I feel very ashamed. My kids would understand and listen all those once they grow up and I don’t know what they going to think about Me.
I need to take care of them even when I am sick. Even if I am completely ill he don’t even say any good words or let me take some rest by looking after the kids.
I just want my kids to be with both their parents and I am suffering all these hoping one day it will all be alright.
25th August 2021 at 7:57 pm #130583Wants To HelpParticipant
Welcome to the forum and for reaching out. What concerns me about your post is that after all this time you are still here on a spouse visa and do not have the right to remain here in your own right. Your spouse visa should have been acted on within your first few years and your husband should have done this so that you have the rights of a British Citizen. Often, keeping a wife on a visa to make them permanently dependent is a control thing because you are unable to leave him and remain here living independently. Please contact your local DA support service and seek some advice regarding your legal status here, they may have contacts with some migration specialists who do pro bono work in this area.
From what you describe, this is an abusive relationship and you know it is.
Please stay on this forum for ongoing support xx
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