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It’s been (detail removed by moderator) together. Hes so awful.. he’s like two different people, (detail removed by moderator) every relationship I have been in has been abusive.. I thought this was different. I’d be here all day typing if I could. I got upset an hour ago. Because I was crying he was screaming at me how fat, ugly, horrible disgusting I was. How he hated me. How he never loved me. (detaul removed by moderator) he puts me down and down and down even when I’m at Rock bottom. whole time I’m crying begging for him to stop. Yet he’s just still shouting. He doesn’t care. I hold on to the times he’s so lovely. And hope for him to change but he doesn’t. I can’t leave.. the thought of him with someone else makes me sick, I don’t want anyone else.. I want him to change and be with me. This hurts so bad I feel like I’d die without him. I can’t bring myself to leave. I have (detail removed by moderator) and so fear of abandonment, I’m in active therapy and medicated. He has (detail removed by moderator) and won’t get any help.. how do I become strong! How do I leave? How do I stop my brain imagining him changing, or becoming a better person. Or for the next girl he’d treat her so well.. I don’t talk to anybody.. I don’t want them to think of him in any negative way. I have a daughter with him. He doesn’t help in any way . Please I feel like I will be forever miserable broken shell of myself. Whats wrong with me? .
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Hi wanttogetbetter, I am so sorry you are with another abusive partner…it isn’t your fault…
How you describe how you feel, like you would die without him, that you cannot bare the thought of him with someone else… that describes a trauma bond which releases the same chemicals as if you are addicted…
You sound very distraught and understandably so…
You have Support from a therapist? Have you contacted your local Women’s Aid or on chat on here as theycan be really helpfu?
There is nothing wrong with you…you entered this relationship not wanting to be abused, he has chosen to treat you this way for his own reasons.
He can treat you nicely as all these men can..that’s what I mean, he is chosing to treat you badly and there’s no excuse.
I think we all hold onto the good times… I was with my abusive husband for way too long, I also used to feel sick at the thought of not only him with someone else but also myself..
Big hugs
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Thankyou for replying I’m just so lost, I’m definitely in a trauma bond with him I just don’t know how to break free. Another argument (detail removed by Moderator).. the words he says break me.. crush me.. but he doesn’t feel bad. he doesn’t care. I tried to do live chat on here but it doesn’t seem to work for me? And therapy at the moment is group therapy so I can’t talk openly about this really. I want help. I need to leave.. I am a shell of myself. A broken shell of nothingness. I have never felt so worthless and vulnerable in my life. I am crushed
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Oh god this is me i feel l exactly the same!! It’s like abusive men go to the same school 🏫 😪 it’s justba crazy cycle. We know how this ruins our mental health but it’s a trap xxxx
Over the last few years I feel like I’m going nuts
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Not wanting other people to think bad of them is mad isn’t it?! I’m the same. If I told someone it makes it real and I don’t want them to think he’s awful. But even reading other people’s stories on here I can think to myself “they need to get out of that relationship”. I suppose we all can see that, it’s just doing it.
I am slightly different as things have gone on so long it’s really destroyed my feelings for him but I am still amazed at his lack of empathy, like if I cry as a result of an argument or something he’s said I get told to stop feeling sorry for myself. I get zero affection. It’s hard.
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It’s crazy how I stick up for him and call this love when I know it’s the furthest thing from it. No matter what I do or how much I try it doesn’t work or get better. Hes so cruel.. so mean.. if anyone knew what he was ACTUALLY like.. I thought about recording it sometimes. I think I’m to desensitised to it all. The way he speaks to me would have everyone gasping if they knew. It’s just normal to me now. I want nothing more than to get out
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