It’s dreadful how these abusers use school pick-up times as opportunities for abuse.
After my ex left and I started divorce proceedings, my heart was always in my mouth, as I sensed my ex might use school pick-up to scare me.
He never, ever wanted to pick the kids up from school, even when he lived here, even to help me out if I was running late. I had to ask friends to drop my kids home.
Just after I began divorce proceedings, she sent me a cryptic text with dots after it:
“Shall I pick up x ( son’s name ) …?”
He knew what I would interpret this to mean. That he would take him/ kidnap him. Yet if Id have shown that to a policeman or judge, they’d have called me loopy.
Luckily, I had so many supportive staff at my kids’ school. I went to talk to the head, the class teachers, the pastoral care workers…
I put them all on red alert, and this helped me feel safe and less vulnerable to him.
If he is ignoring any court orders, make sure you follow it up.