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I am feeling so angry and anxious every time I have to enter my home he once lived in and want to verbalise it to him. The police have hindered my progress completely because he wasn’t on my mind at all until he used a lie against me. Now they have taken his 1st word after only ignoring 4 of my messages to ask him to leave the possessions to get sorted by solicitors and now because he doesn’t want it to go through courts he has accused me of harassment after making my life hell for (detail removed by moderator) already. It has built up a rage inside me that I never knew existed before and I am really struggling to just not hit send
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Hi. That’s beyond belief what he did as if he hasnt done enough harm already.but please dont break your no contact. I can understand how frustrated how angry you feel and you have every right to feel that. But dont verbalize it to him. Probably this is what he wants from you. To break your no contact. And even if u write an angry message it would still be a contact that would harm you and he would get what he wanted. Xx
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He’s taken so much from me already and even now he’s continuing to take my powers. All I want to do is confess my wrong doings ie (detail removed by moderator) and perverting the course of justice and gain possession of my (detail removed by moderator) so it can be used to pay the debts that have been left by our time together. He’s still got the power now and the police have assisted him. I wasn’t even anxious before and I didn’t have any intention of contacting him ever again when I ended the relationship now he has lied his way back in just to parade his new girlfriend off who I don’t actually give a hoot about. Now my mental health and moral character have been assassinated by his lies and he walks round like butter wouldn’t melt and smugly at that. I’ve been left with nowhere to feel comfortable not in my home or around my family because of his relentless attacks on me prior to the harassment warning been placed against me.
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Write a letter to him but do not send it. Get all your angry thoughts down on paper. It will help to get these thoughts out your head. I’d still make a complaint about the police not investigating thoroughly before issuing a harassment order. Do not contact him. That’s what he wants. He is using his belongings as a way to contact you. I would dump all his stuff somewhere else at a family member or friend. I think he will be contacting you if you leave things. They just can’t help themselves. they are really sneaky so don’t underestimate him. hes left his belongings there to facilitate contact. They love to see us suffer so don’t give him the satisfaction.
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I did manage to save all the voicemails he has left and put them onto a file before they auto delete. After he attacked me for my phone he even sent me texts saying he just wanted to see the entire message thread. Next day him and his new girlfriend added me to a group chat to declare their love for each other and he took glee in saying “unlike you Sam has shown me all the messages because she doesn’t hide things like you” that bit has still frazzled me and other people who have seen all the correspondence between him and I. 2 days before I got the harassment warning he left a voicemail asking me to go to his place cos he hadn’t pulled. Seriously and the police just ain’t interested
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I posted on your other board. Please do not break a no contact order. I also understand how hard it is to not have the police on your side. My partner has periods in which he verbally assaults me and shoves me. However, if I fight back he threatens the police and he even called the police who ended up escorting me out the house i’d been living in for the last two months. I was SLEEPING in bed and he kept coming over telling me I just needed to get out. He still called the police anyway saying I was belligerent and needed to be removed. The police don’t know who and who isn’t acting erratically. Do not give them a reason to think that you are both mutually fighting. Breaking a no contact order is a huge no no.
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I was always afraid of breaking the law he knows that and I truly believe this is his way of silencing me because he doesn’t like to hear the truth. I wasn’t even interested in what he did after him and I parted. I actually told him I didn’t want to hear or know about him or his new love life. His lie to invade my boundaries after I had rebuilt my life alone is the most infuriating part and the police are completely ignoring me pleas. That is what is driving me insane is because I didn’t do what they have accused me of. The police from my station have my call log from the incident and I followed their advice and him and his girlfriend still kept invading my space. He brought all these people into my life not the other way around and the police just do not care. I had to change enough of me when we were in a relationship and now it’s over I am still having to change because of him. I was meant to be seeing women’s aid today but due to adverse weather it had to be cancelled. I have never suffered panic attacks before in my life but now the police have issued me with that warning I’ve started to feel even more uncomfortable in my own home.
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It happens. I have said things to my partner that would have warranted similar things. Just take it as a step to knowing that he is a LOW LOW person and keep your head high and move on. Don’t cave in and contact him in any way.
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The police involvement has exasperated the situation and what has caused me the stress and anxiety and he has used them as a pawn in his game. I’m going to be seeking legal advice and if that proved fruitless I’ll go to the media and my MP about the matter. It shouldn’t be allowed for a man to treat a person like a slave binding them with fear. Especially in 2018
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The ex accused me of stealing a very large amount of money from our marital home. I almost got arrested over this.
The thing is, he did not have a penny and he himself has never seen that much cash in his entire life.
The accusation was only dropped because he could not proof it.
At a later point he admitted that he reported me wrongly and it had no consequence for him at all.
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