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      Hi ladies! I’m new here and wanted to say hi. I managed to finally escape (detail removed by moderator) once I found the courage to call the police and he got arrested. The road to recovery has been a long, exhausting and wobbly one.
      I’ve been having therapy so dealt with a lot of the emotional processing, but where I’m at right now feels like the hardest of it all.
      Dealing with the after effects that abuse has on your body and mind. I am overwhelmed by everything, forgetful a lot of the time and spend my days very disassociated and confused. I jump at everything (the other day I had to take a nap after the toaster went) and learning how to manage that has been hard and incredibly lonely at times. I know it’s not going to be instant but it’s hard, and frustrating and I just want to feel ‘normal’ again and be able to do normal things. Trying to teach my body that day to day things aren’t threats before shutting down or going into fight, flight or freeze is new, and a long, hard process and at the moment my body can’t determine that (the toaster) for example isn’t a threat.

      Whilst my support network of friends and family is amazing, sometimes you just need support from people who really get it, to know you’re not alone, who have been through it or in the same stage as you and I’m looking for anyone that is also in this stage, and finding it so god d**n hard.

      And to anyone else that is still trying to find their way out, you’re amazing and please continue holding the faith. I did it and you’ll be able to do it too 🤍

      Look forward to connecting with you!

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      Main Moderator


      Welcome to the forum and thank you for your post. You are having to process a lot and feeling hyper vigilant and sensitive to things that feel every day- that is your brains way of trying to protect you, it doesn’t want you to be hurt again.

      You may need time to feel safe again and that’s okay you deserve that time to put yourself first, give yourself that compassion. You can access free online courses created by or in partnership with therapists specialising in trauma at
      Bloom. These courses can be accessed in your own time and at your own pace and cover topics such as trauma, abuse and boundaries.

      Take care and keep posting

      Best Wishes


    • #168103

      hello,we are both new then and its comforting to know that we are all getting hrlp and are getting there,would you like to chat.

    • #168104

      also i think that any help and someone to talk to is a massive help,i asked for counselling for flash backs and there is a years waiting list

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