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    • #96219
      Escapee
      Participant

      Hi ladies,

      I’ve been quiet for a bit, just needing to think, weigh it all up and try to make sense of it all.

      For years and years I tried to fix him but all I really achieved was that I broke me.

      To all you lovely ladies out there that are still in the middle of it all, please don’t make my mistake. The cost is enormous and you’ll be left emotionally bankrupt.

      Xx

    • #96227
      fizzylem
      Participant

      Truly insightful Escapee, beautifully and succintly put – sadly so true, can relate, me too, I can add finacially bankrupt to that as well, have been mad about this for a long time, not now, if its the price for peace then it was money well lost x

    • #96235
      Escapee
      Participant

      I walked away penniless three times in my life. Each time I’ve survived but being drained emotionally leaves you so vulnerable and it affects so many aspects of your road to recovery – physically, psychologically and the ability to pull yourself back up financially.

      Fizzy, I admire you enormously – you show such, strength, wisdom and compassion.

      I finally feel I am ready to heal. I had s really bad trigger experience that has knocked me back by several months but it also made me take stock, stay still and really explore what I was feeling. It wasn’t pleasant (still isn’t) but it’s almost like I have become calm and can finally see my way forward.

    • #96238
      fizzylem
      Participant

      Sorry to read its been an awful period again E, but I’m jumping for joy that you have listened to yourself and given yourself exactly what you needed! This is out of victim mode and into survivor isnt it; but most importantly, always responding to yourself ensures it wont happen ever again – you get why I’m happy for you yes?

      Gosh, three times, that is a lot Escapee, and I hear you loud and clear how recovery gets harder. We can only do one step at a time hey, and rest when we need to. You’re gonna be ok flower, I know it, cos you are a good soul and I’ve seen it time and time again that you simply can not keep a good woman down, it’s so true. Remember, he is nothing bar a small resource to utilise for growth learning now, more a stepping stone really, so that you never settle ever again, meaning you have much more chance at success in everything thing you do and in all aspects of your life – getting the life you really want xx

    • #96239
      fizzylem
      Participant

      Thanks for your kind words, we’re all pretty amazing really aren’t we x*x

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