So nice to have a voice here! When my husband yells at me and tells me I am dim and stupid and doesn’t let me defend myself because he will shout me down again, I go quiet because I am so upset and angry that I am not allowed to have a voice. Then I am accused of giving him the silent treatment and he ‘really will shout at me’ if I keep on doing it. He says he doesn’t shout and that I would know it if he did!! I can’t win. I can’t say what I feel because he will start shouting and putting me down again and if I speak to him as though nothing has happened, I am letting him think that his behaviour is ok. I hear him on the phone to his family and friends; telling them I am horrible and treat him bad and he wonders why I don’t want to see them!