Thanks LONC, that is really helpful to remember. I was thinking today, these horrible men who we have got entangled with, surely they are in the minority of the male human race. Abuse seems so big and all consuming to us on this forum, but in the whole scheme of life i’m hoping very much the abusive male is very much a small minority. I’m hoping the majority of men are normal, reasonable, straight talking, with flaws, quirks and ok personalities. All of us women on here have unfortuantly been unlucky to have a brush with the minority.