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Does anyone have what I can only describe as “triggers” I can be going about my day then I hear a certain word, smell or even pain feeling and BOOM! Thoughts and feelings come running back! For example at work someone says to be “ put your hair up” and it just brings me back to his constant demands. It’s stupid but it hits home.
Anyone got any tips on how to manage these!?
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Hello can see you haven’t had a reply yet and couldn’t leave unanswered. I don’t have trigger words as such more situations or looks. So I can feel like I did when something bad happened, normally a precursor to some crazy driving or a long stint of silent treatment. I get anxious like I am in it again. I have had something called emdr it sounds strange if you google it but actually it was amazing!!!! It has not solved all my thoughts and feelings but it has greatly reduced these anxious feelings that take me back to that time. You can get on nhs apparently but lots of private practitioners worth a look!!
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I get that horrible sick feeling in pit of my stomach, often if my phone bleeps, because I used to get strange texts and messages, and this escalated once he wasnt here. Hes blocked now but still get it. I try and picture moving the bad thoughts to one side ok .y head and focus on something silly like naming animals from a to z as a distraction
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Still in my marriage and the abuse had reduced a lot as some things like the frequency of his drug abuse had stopped …but I had a nagging feelinga lately that I am being triggered …one particular trigger is when he snorts /sounds all bunged up…that sends a massive jolt through my body of sheer fear followed by immense dispair over what he became and that maybe he’s going down that path again … And now his moods again ..any strop he has triggers me but then he would snap out of it quite quickly so I think maybe I’m overreacting due to past experience…but the last month or so has shown , once again , my gut instincts were right ..there is something wrong …
..So now I know those triggers are important when still in a an abusive/dangerous situation..they are warning signals….things are not ok … I do need to get into flight mode .. and then when we are OUT of the situation we need to find healthy ways to cope with them triggers.
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