Trying to find the strength again

[Ariel]

I left once before and went back. It’s coming up to a year ago when I left and nothing has changed. Still can’t breathe without it being questiond. If I leave I risk the relationship with my elder son breaking down and my partner manipulates them into not talking to me. Also when I did talk to them he has them on spea kerry phone and he has to see any messages I have written etc. I basically had to ring him first to ask if it was Ok to ring my own children!
The children want to stay in our house. I have decided to not chuck my partner out as I feel this will cause more agg and set him off more.
Just can’t seem to find that strength again and scared of loosing my relationship with my boy.
I’m thinking of going into a house share and I can’t afford a place of my own…
Just want to hear your thoughts please x

[Ariel]

I will feel safer in a house share but back to thinking do I tell him face to face that I want to move out or do I just set it all up and go…..

[Confused123]

Hi Hun

I think the stress is not allowing u to think clear which is normal, i would suggest u call the helpline to get guidance on what your options are, they can refer u to agencies that can help u. Not sure how old your child is , but if u think it is safe to leave him and u need to get out yourself first a house share is a good option. I would have a private chat with your son one to one explaining how unhappy u r and that u would love him to come with u but if he doesnt u understand and u want him to know that u always love him and will and not to beleive the lies his dad may say about u. once u are away from ex u will think a lot clearer. It is stressful leaving them but have support around u to make and keep u strong

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