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  • #57461
     [email protected] 

    Hi, please i need advise on how to go about this, I’ve been trying to get away from my abusive husband but no one seems to help everyone that heard everything that he’s been doing to me said you’ve been abuse there’s help out there for you, I posted On this group March and got some advise.
    Called (Detail removed by moderator) domestic violence for help but they don’t seems to want to help me, they gave me a refuge centre number to ring because they didn’t have vacancy in their refuge which i did and the lady offered me a place but couldn’t find anyone to sign the ddv concession form for me, so I went beach to (Detail removed by moderator) domestic violence and a lady offered to help with the form, she collected all my information and said that the form was posted by a lawyer that she is waiting for biometric letter after (Detail removed by moderator) I decided to contact the lawyer and she said she did not send it that the lady at domestic violence center supposed to handle it, got in touch with the lady again and she there was an issue and the cane to meet me with form which I signed and dated the she called and said she has emailed it to the home office that she waiting for biometric letter, that was last week Monday.
    I read online that If you emailed this letter to the home office it take 1-2day for them to process but till now she hasn’t been in touch with me. Please i need help on what to do, is they anyone i can call or anywhere i can go for help. Thank you

  • #57462

    I’m sorry you are going through this, Stressedout. Sometimes things can take what seems forever to churn through and it’s terrible not knowing.

    Speak again, if you haven’t already, to the National WA helpline. Leave a message and someone will get back to you. Keep trying. Have you spoken to the police about your situation? They can help too. I hope you resolve this soon some way or another. You are not alone!

  • #57517

    Hello stressedout,

    It sounds like you’re situation is to do with immigration. I am not familiar with home office problems but have you tried talking to womensaid outreach team. You need to explain everything clearly to them and ask them for the kind of support you need. I have sometimes found when speaking to ppl they tend to be emotionally supportive but aren’t very clear about how to go about doing things the best way and the procedures that have to be followed.

    Are you actually in a refuge? Do you have family anywhere that could help you? Have you spoken to your GP? I had the same problem of ppl, professionals saying there was lots of support but I had no idea what kind of support they were offering. Sometimes I felt, people were playing games with me. I couldn’t trust anyone. The only ppl I felt were listening to me was my IDVA and my solicitor.

    It’s a confusing and frightening time trying to get out and even afterwards, so please be careful and be strong. Things take time to fall into place, but I’m sure everything will turn out ok.

  • #57532
    Main Moderator

    Hello @stressedout,

    Please phone the helpline for some advice and support. They will be able to help you and hopefully your situation can be resolved quickly.

    Kind regards,

    Forum Moderator

  • #57756

    Hi, have you found a place of safety?
    Your story reminds me of my own situation a few years ago.
    A refuge needs to accept you no matter which immigration status you have.
    I experienced racism when I wanted to flee to a refuge.

    Have you tried Rights of Women? Use their call back function when it is safe to do so as they are very busy.

    You could go to your GP with a bag that contains your most important things and refuse to go home. They can help you get into a refuge. The police will be involved though, if you don’t mind that.

  • #58437
     [email protected] 

    I have manage to get into the refuge now, i have been here for (Detail removed by moderator) weeks now and my ddv concession card that enable me to claim benefut was send to the refuge the 1st of this month but till now one has help to process the benefit and (Detail removed by moderator) because lefal aids is not in place for me. My abuser has put a restraining order. Im lost i dont know what to do (Detail removed by moderator)
    Please any advise will help.

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