Trying to keep my head straight

[Chocolatebunnie]

One of the children has been smacked, tapped idk as it’s not done immediately in front of me, only a couple of occasions and it’s was a light smack I witnessed.

So parenting can be different I get that.

But, my child spoke about it. My husband denied it. I spoke up and corrected him that I have seen him do it.

My child is upset as he’s been told he’s lying when he’s not.

He was told to go away and he came with me as I had to be somewhere as husband refused to look after him as he had been accused.

My child thinks daddy doesn’t love him now.

But we discussed how hitting is wrong. My child was hit for (detail removed by Moderator), this isn’t showing or helping him learn right from wrong (detail removed by Moderator).

It’s gaslighting? Not the first of our children for this to happen with. Not so much the hitting but the denying and shaming for being truthful or having a opinion.

Bang goes the honeymoon period S he’s angry cos I don’t agree with him, I’m betraying him I guess

[Lisa]

Hi Chocolatebunnie,

I can understand why you’re concerned about the impact of this whole situation on your child. It must be really difficult for you when protecting your children makes your husband angry with you.

The NSPCC can be a useful source of information and support with any worries about a child, even if you’re unsure whether it’s abuse. There’s information on their website or you could give them a call on 0808 800 5000 to talk. They’ll be able to talk through your concerns and give you specialist guidance.

Take care and keep posting,
Lisa

[Chocolatebunnie]

Thanks Lisa looked at the website and clearly fits in other areas too.

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