I can understand why you’re concerned about the impact of this whole situation on your child. It must be really difficult for you when protecting your children makes your husband angry with you.
The NSPCC can be a useful source of information and support with any worries about a child, even if you’re unsure whether it’s abuse. There’s information on their website or you could give them a call on 0808 800 5000 to talk. They’ll be able to talk through your concerns and give you specialist guidance.