Used to threaten suicide but doesn’t anymore

[Footballfan1]

When we were together, he used to threaten suicide.
Now we aren’t together, he tells anyone who will listen, including the kids that he will never do that, and that it was me who urged him to do it, it was me who egged him on and encouraged him to do it.

He says very confidently that no-one will ever get him to do it even though everyone is pushing him to.
By everyone he means me, police, anyone against him basically.

[Camel]

Your ex has just changed tack. He’s still keeping the subject of suicide alive in everyone’s thoughts. Well, he thinks he is, but frankly he sounds ridiculous.

[Footballfan1]

Your right Camel,
No-one else brings up suicide, only he does.
He even told the kids about it and then wondered why I also stopped phone contact as well as seeing them in person.

[Hereforhelp]

Abusers do change the narrative to show themselves as a victim, yes he has changed tactics
❤️

[Scottish Thistle]

Mine used to say he’d commit suicide when things didn’t go his way and that’s probably why I stayed as long as I did as I didn’t want that on my conscience or blaming myself if I walked out when he ‘needed me’ mine though made it open on social media all for attention. I had people messaging saying I had to help him, I’ve had the police at the door because people have reported his posts etc.

It was hard but when I left if I heard that he was still talking about suicide not to get sucked back in – I’ve never gone back!

Yes his tactics have changed but I’m a much stronger person now and so much happier.

[Twisted Sister]

yeah, he would threaten suicide to YOU, now he needs to blame someone for his behaviour, that wasn’t real, didn’t happen, was made up by others, etc, take your pick. Its just him wriggling out of being called out over his false claims. Its so sickening that people do this, and so much time, energy and public resources are wasted on them, when there are people really needing help. Most wouldn’t actually say anything if they wanted to go. Having realised the deal with the interferers I certainly wouldn’t if I’d wanted to, what would be the point, having busybodies trying to take over your life, noone wants to swap one form of control for another!

He’s just blaming others for his behaviours. After all, he has to have some answers for what he figures you may be telling others now you are out!

warmest wishes

ts

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