Walking on eggshells

[thankgoodness]

Half the time I’m okay and there is no familial abuse but half the other time there is familial abuse. It’s weird, it’s confusing, it’s like there are two sides to one of my family members. Everyone else are always walking on eggshells, because we don’t know what to expect.

I really want to speak to a counsellor soon because I just feel anxious and nervous about everything. I know I will get through it with help and advice.

[Lisa]

Hi thankgoodness,

Domestic abuse is so confusing when you’re in it. There will often be good times as well as bad; perpetrators will rarely be abusive all the time so lots of women end up clinging on to the good times and wishing they could be like that all the time. More often than not the abusive behaviours tend to escalate over a period of time.

It’s really anxiety provoking when you’re walking on eggshells all the time. Lots of local domestic abuse services have access to specialist domestic abuse counsellors which you might be able to access, you could chat to a Women’s Aid worker online too if you need to talk anything through. There’s also the Samaritans who are 24 hours if you need to talk about how you’re feeling on 116 123,

Keep posting to let us know how you’re getting on,

Lisa

[thankgoodness]

Thanks Lisa, I have spoken to Samaritans for quite long now and they are helpful. I like to speak on this Women’s Aid forum too because before I thought I was alone but now I know there are lots and lots of people going through domestic abuse as well.

Every morning I’m walking on eggshells and every evening too. Those are the usual times my brother starts his abuse. Then sometimes all of a sudden from nowhere he starts playing the good guy to people. A lot of people who have known my brother for long know how abusive and mentally unwell he is. It’s only people who don’t know him so well that think he is ok. My brother wears a ‘mask’, behind the mask is his abusive character.

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