What’s best move ?

[Bubblegum]

Hello ladies

Have not been on this forum for a long while .I divorced my ex husband quite a few years ago now .Last (detail removed by moderator) we have had no contact even tho we have two children together .Myself children currently living family home .When our (detail removed by moderator) the house is meant sold I’ll have higher percentage than him. A friend recently mentioned about trying to buy my Ex out now rather wait untill (detail removed by moderator)  due house prices etc .The only problem that puts me off is I have no contact with him
And I feel anxious even thinking about contacting him or getting solicitors involved .He made our divorce very difficult dragging things out costing thousands .Or do I simply carry on as normal next few years as things are very peaceful moment and let him do all running around when time comes to sort the house out .I feel ill be digging up can worms he still misses child maintenance payments so a sign he has not changed .Would really appreciate some advice xx

[Anonymous]

Talk it through with a solicitor. If you want to approach him maybe do it through a solicitor after you have had some advice. It will cost money but do you really want to contact him directly?
You would be asking him to agree to change the terms of the court order. If he needs the money now he might be interested, but it sounds like he may have has the right to refuse. I would see a solicitor as a first step to see what your options are.

[Bubblegum]

Thank you ladies for your replies .Beach hut I think you hit the nail in the head .Do it when the time is right when I’m ready .I still have a few years yet .It’s only last couple years I’ve started to take care of myself and when my friend mentioned about my house good idea but same time I think it really triggered me which I didn’t like .Even going through solicitor the thought have to deal with him again right now is not right time .Is it normal to still have triggers even after few years not being together xx

[Eggshells]

Hi Bubblegum,

Please don’t worry about house prices going up. They experts have disagreed about what would happen to house prices during the pandemic but they all seem to agree now that prices are stabilising.

If and when the time comes to buy him out,very find you can’t afford it, please don’t worry. You will make a new home far more easily than you imagine and it won’t have the echoes of abuse to haunt you.

My advice, relax and let him do all the grunt work if he wants to sell up. xx

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