He’s only been gone (detail removed by Moderator) and during that time he has been sending civilised text messages which despite my reservations, i was thinking that maybe he is taking this opportunity to start again and make something of his life but of course, he starts with the shady texts (detail removed by Moderator), attacking my treatment of (detail removed by Moderator) since i decided we should split, despite the fact that I specifically explained that i wouldnt contact her to avoid putting her in a difficult position. But he has to make out that I have deliberately ignored her because he knows that will get to me because i do actually care. and it annoys me so much that he can still do things that make me defend myself and get under my skin. will there ever be a time where I can not be affected by the things that he says?