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Hi , I’m new to this and looking for help/support/advice. The elation of finally leaving and setting up (detail removed by Moderator) miles away , new home and job, I should be thankful, instead I’m now in the depths of depression. I’m struggling with life in general and feel it’s no longer worth living. Does it get better?
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Hi,
Firstly, well done for leaving.
It isn’t that long, I think the amount of time will get moderated, but believed me, leaving is the start of your healing. I have been out for quite alot longer.
So first, I had to deal with my PTSD, which doesn’t set in straight after leaving. That took around 6 months. Then I have also had alot of talking therapy, going back to my issues with my faster mostly, he was abusive.
Its different for everyone, but it’s totally normal to suffer depression, PTSD, anxiety after an abusive relationship. There is so much healing to be done.
I think only when we leave do we truly soo the damage that was done to us.
It takes work and time and things do get better. I find the healing comes in waves, i will get waves of missing him and feeling terrible, of daoubting the abuse. Then I will feel better again for a while. I think it follows on from the cycle of abuse.
I would say, invest in yourself, do all the things you couldnt do in the relationship, develop good relationships with family and friends, pursue hobbies, and carry on with the healing through therapy, books, support groups, this forum.
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It’s been a while for me. I live differently and still see counsellors for this. At times for me it is ok then certain weeks I get triggered- this week was very bad. I believe in time to come it will change. It has already with myself actually feeling I was moving forward and then things happen. I feel yes I will move on but just not yet.
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