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    • #17784

      He’s going to come walking through the door? It’s just haunting me forever all the time. X

    • #17785
      Falling Skys

      Hi BD

      Its because your on hypa alert, our brain works on overtime trying to think of their next move before they do it.

      I feel that my abuser won’t come through my bedroom door, but I still use a door brace and keep an alarm and mobile beside in while I sleep. Over kill probably but it gives me comfort.

      FS xx

      • #17787

        Hi falling sky’s yes I once had a key lock yrs ago on my door I couldn’t sleep unless I locked myself in at night I used to have my lamp lit. I’ve been more affected than I think x

    • #17788

      When he first moved out for good I always thought he was standing outside my window. He wasn’t but it took me a while to shake that feeling off. There’s still nights where I get that feeling. It’ll just take time to fully shake things off xx

      • #17790

        Hi hope springs thanks for your post. Yes I used to think he were on ladders outside my window. Over the back from me is a field I used to think he were in there watching me. I feel I’ve totally lost it. X

    • #17792

      It’s because you’ve seen him, he’s waved at your son and hooted, etc.

      All that is triggering.

      Something I did which helped was imagine a scenario in my head where I faced him and told him exactly what I thought of him. In my imagined scenario, he backed down and looked scared!

      They all this creative visualisation- using the imagination to go through a scenario where you are strong, etc…

      It helped me X

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