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    • #55885

      I am struggling with weird ups and downs in my emotions recently.

      It has been over a year since I have been away from my ex but last night I felt real anxiety, the type I used to feel before he came home from work, it was an “oh no I haven’t hoovered or tidied up or cooked a proper meal he is going to be cross” type of anxiety which is really irrational.

      Yet at other times I really miss him and think of all the good times we had together.

      Are these rollercoaster emotions normal? After all this time I should be more stable surely?

    • #55890

      Hi cupofcoffee
      This is perfectly normal
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      You are still in the healing process like Me.. Try keep yourself busy do something nice for yourself.. Are you in councilling x

    • #55891

      Yep all normal. I has specialist counselling and she said it can take upto 10 years for those physical effects to go. I’m not saying it will take you 10 years but your body and mind have been programmed to behave in a certain way and it will take time to retrain that though pattern. Read about the part of the brain called the amygdala and how is responds to trauma. Baby steps. Just think how far you have come. Well done you x

    • #55929

      Thank you so much KIP and Borntobefree, your advice is really useful and important to me.

      I am not in counselling but am looking into starting soon, also I need to do more self-care too. I am the sort of person who can put on a “tough” outer shell but of course I need to show I can be vulnerable too!

    • #55943

      It is normal. It’s a type of hyper-vigilance that comes post-trauma.

      Sounds barmy, but I remind myself out loud that he’s gone. It helps x

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