Hi betterdays, it will be great for you & your boys to all move on. I think the abusers must be missing some sort of empathy, decency, honesty & conscience. I gave my ex everything that I had, my heart, love, loyalty & trust. He chucked me, does not appear to have ever looked back, I,m sure very swiftly I. E within days or even hours had another woman in his bed & has disregarded everything that I thought that we had. Our relationship due to this has been put into the status of a meaningless sham, it wasn,t that to me. They have no real heart or decency like we do. X