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      Neueranfang
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      I am absolutely dreading Christmas this year.It will be my first Christmas as a single mum of two.Last year I pulled myself together just for the sake of it or rather so that my kids had a nice Christmas but really it was all a show last year as I already wanted out and I wasn’t happy at all.Well, this year I’m in a better place I suppose/or not but I’m dreading Christmas.We used to go round my mother in law’s for the last (removed by moderator) years.I never actually spend Christmas with my family as they are abroad and the kids preferred to stay here.This year I definitely won’t be able to go abroad to see my family because of Covid plus there is also a (removed by moderator)…so best to stay here.My (Ex) sister in law offered me to spend Christmas with her (removed by moderator) which is lovely but this offer will cause more problems.My Ex, her brother has been harassing me (removed by moderator), he is still trying to get me back.I know he expects me to go round (removed by moderator) nonetheless and he will be fuming if he finds out that his sister invited us.She also used to go round the mum’s house but she decided not to go this year because she can’t stand being around my Ex.She is the only person in the family who has been supportive and who sees what is going on.The mum and the rest are literally zombies allowing the abusive behaviour.I was close to my mother in law while with him and she just dropped me like she never knew me.No support, zero contact.Me and my boys are ill with Covid at the moment and she hasn’t once asked if we are ok, knowing my family are all abroad.That’s the kinda people I had in my life for a (removed by moderator).I’m certainly not gonna spend Christmas day with these people.Just to make my Ex feel ok.No way.But I don’t want to ruin it for the kids and I don’t want to cause arguments by going round the sisters place 😩

    • #134689
      Bananaboat
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      I’m really struggling to get into the Christmas vibe this year. One thing that really struck me about your post is that not once do you mention what YOU want to do? Do you want to go to the mother in laws or sister in laws or do you just feel obliged to because you have the last few years? If this is your first Christmas on your own then it’s your first Christmas to do whatever you like my dear, what do the kids want to do? Visit people if it will make you happy but not if it’ll make you upset. x

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