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    • #82243
      Justholdingon
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      My ex is using our child as an excuse to tell me how to live my life. I’ve just realised that I have started using grey rock. I’m still a bit wobbly, but there’s something to be said for not allowing him to see he’s upset me.

    • #82251
      Flowerchild
      Participant

      Yay for you, darling! It’s such a powerful strategy and gives you so much power and confidence.

      Well done!

      Flower x

      • #101045
        Whateverapproach
        Participant

        Hi Justholdingon, i’m new to the site. Sorry what is the grey rock method i’m looking for any tips/advice as i’m seperated and still living with the gas lighting ex thanks

    • #82303
      KIP.
      Participant

      Well done. Next step is to reduce contact to an absolute minimum. Watch out for him upping his game when he can’t get a reaction. Stay safe x

    • #82676
      HopeLifeJoy
      Participant

      Great doing!
      I love grey rock, it is my go to method to get rid of exploitative people. They can go plug themselves into someones else’s veins!

    • #82712
      resilient
      Participant

      i did not know what grey rock was till your post – thank you. fortunately i am nc with my childs dad – for now. however, i have had to apply it where i work and like KIP has stated, it was not long till they bit.
      best wishes to you*

    • #82797
      Justholdingon
      Participant

      *resilient* I’m glad it helped you.

    • #101073
      Justholdingon
      Participant

      *whateverapproach* look up grey rock. Its about not giving an animated response when your abuser is trying to upset you or start an argument, so you just respond with things like yes, no or okay. The idea is they get bored of no reaction and start to leave you alone.

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