This topic contains 7 replies, has 6 voices, and was last updated by  Justholdingon 1 month, 2 weeks ago.

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  • #82243

    My ex is using our child as an excuse to tell me how to live my life. I’ve just realised that I have started using grey rock. I’m still a bit wobbly, but there’s something to be said for not allowing him to see he’s upset me.

  • #82251

    Yay for you, darling! It’s such a powerful strategy and gives you so much power and confidence.

    Well done!

    Flower x

    • #101045

      Hi Justholdingon, i’m new to the site. Sorry what is the grey rock method i’m looking for any tips/advice as i’m seperated and still living with the gas lighting ex thanks

  • #82303

    Well done. Next step is to reduce contact to an absolute minimum. Watch out for him upping his game when he can’t get a reaction. Stay safe x

  • #82676

    Great doing!
    I love grey rock, it is my go to method to get rid of exploitative people. They can go plug themselves into someones else’s veins!

  • #82712

    i did not know what grey rock was till your post – thank you. fortunately i am nc with my childs dad – for now. however, i have had to apply it where i work and like KIP has stated, it was not long till they bit.
    best wishes to you*

  • #82797

    *resilient* I’m glad it helped you.

  • #101073

    *whateverapproach* look up grey rock. Its about not giving an animated response when your abuser is trying to upset you or start an argument, so you just respond with things like yes, no or okay. The idea is they get bored of no reaction and start to leave you alone.

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