I am in a mixed race relationship, I’m white and married to an Arab muslim. What can I say, it’s the biggest mistake I’ve ever made in my life, I left everything behind because of him, my country, my career, my hobbies, my friends, everything. He had violent outbursts from the srart, but I was so much in love, I thought, I’ll get over this, after all, most of the time he was nice and caring. But now after (Detail removed by moderator) years in abusive relationship I feel enough is enough, for my children’s sake I want to get out of this relationship. He’s pulling us down emotionally and also financially we have hit the bottom, it can’t get any worse. I want to move back to the yown we lived before ((Detail removed by moderator) ago he moved us to another town about (Detail removed by moderator) miles away from my friends and acquaintances, my youngest was too young at the time for me to go out to work and thus financially support myself), he’s been on and off work since then, mainly on benefits, initially every time I mentioned work he would become violent towards me. Now I’d like to move back to the old town, but he wants to move with us! And I don’t want it! He’s told me I’m not allowed to take the kids and leave him, he said he’d rather kill them than let me take them with me. So I don’t know what to do, if I let him move with us nothing is going to change and we’ll keep on suffering, plus financially cannot afford working full time and having him at home doing nothing, cannot leave kids with him as I am afraid he could hurt them (in a sense of sharing childcare responsibilities). I know he won’t let me go easily as he’s literally depending on me, he’s English is very poor even after having lived (Detail removed by moderator) years in this country, he can’t even submit a job application or check his bank account status…
Sorry for the long post, but it’s been sitting inside me for years
