Hi,
I am new and never posted before. I’m feeling physically and emotionally drained and that I can’t talk to family or friends because I know what they will say.
I’ve been with my partner (removed by moderator) years. I have (removed by moderator) year old kids and we have a (removed by moderator) year old together. He isn’t physically violent. It’s his mood swings, constant complaining, drinking, putting everyone else before me and the kids. etc
I work and we decided he would stop working away and be a stay at home Dad. Not sure if this was the right choice as it put added financial strain on.
He always has an excuse for going to pub, got to see someone or a mates Birthday or football. This weekend has become tyical. As soon as I finish work at (removed by moderator) he picks me up, drops himself off at pub, i drive home, cook, clean, baths, everything normal,some of which he could have done during the day. Comes home irrational around 10/11pm and goes to bed. After he has moaned about what me and the kids have it haven’t done to his satisfaction. I told him don’t spent much money as we only have (removed by moderator) left for the week for shopping. He spent it and didn’t care. I’m paying off (removed by moderator) a month for his gambling debt. He has ruined furniture and thrown rubbish and milk all over carpets. He never comes anywhere with us and when he does ruins it. Constantly accuses me of cheating. Has held a knife to my throat. I’ve tried to get him to leave many times. Even had police take him away but always comes back.
I’m always waiting for the next good day
We are all miserable. Reasoning with him is futile as he just throws out accusations. The police and my therapist have told me it’s abuse and isn’t right so why am I not asking for help. I’m confused. Me and the kids used to be Abe so happy. I feel so trapped. Thanks for the cent. He is out now spending the money he got (removed by moderator) from helping a mate rather than helping replace the shopping money.
