AuntyOof

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I didn’t go to the police, I really don’t want to go to the police. I consider it only a last resort, even though I have a friend who regularly tries to persuade me I should. I did seek medical advice so there is now a formal record of his behaviour. It did settle for a few weeks but like these sort of things it is starting to build again. I have started working at weekends as a way of protecting myself (not really a long-term solution but as working includes being away overnight it keeps me safe). I can’t keep it up forever and it won’t work for every weekend but it does buy me a bit of time.

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It got worse.

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I’ve tried ringing the helpline number 3 times and it’s just ringing out. Whilst i am not desperate it’s clearly not meant to be. 🙁

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<sigh>

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I did talk to him about his alcohol intake but not about what he was doing to me when he was drunk. I’m not entirely certain he is aware what he is doing. I have a feeling that if he drinks less he will stop. He is drinking less at the moment, it being that time of year when the police are doing more roadside checks in the festive drink drive campaigns – we live rurally so can’t manage without our driving licences so he can’t afford to risk getting done. Him drinking less means he is doing it less.

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I don’t want him arrested. Much as this sound ridiculous I love my husband. When he is sober there is nobody more loving and caring and I want for nothing. I do not want the material in life I simply want to be loved and cared for. I know I sound pathetic but that is where my head is at. It only happens when he’s had too much to drink and not every time, equally I know I am making excuses for him.

I have not and do not anticipate that I would enter a refuge. I do work away from home a reasonable amount so I guess I don’t feel the need.

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One reply but to everyone. Thank you for being for so lovely. I don’t really want to go to the police and dont want to start down a path I don’t think I would be able to stop and I don’t feel comfortable making a phone call. I am fairly certain my husband is not aware of what he is doing. I have three good friends who are aware of what is happening who are supporting me, unfortunately two of them live far away from me so are really only available at a distance but do their best. One of them is male and gets rather angry but respects my decision not to go the the police and really is the reason I am here. I only work part-time whereas my husband works full time so I have plenty of time at home on my own. It doesn’t happen regularly and in the grand scheme of what some people suffer is very low level, however I do appreciate that is not a reason to put up with it. i am aiming to sort out his drinking in the hope that this will sort out the assault problem as the two are linked.

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