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Thanks for the replies. There is a reason I have to keep in touch with my ex would’ve been the same if we had kids so for that reason I can’t stop communicating with him. It definitely is a trauma bond and yes I’m happy in my new relationship but I find it completely different from the last, I’ve always hated changes and this was a BIG change. I love my new partner but I always find myself comparing him to my ex and that’s not fair on him. In some ways I wish that I had waited but then other ways I’m glad I didn’t hang around. Just no pleasing me just lately lol

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Thank you all for the replies! X

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Anything flexible and part time if you can. I made the mistake of changing my hours at work from part time to fulltime as I had to live alone I feel like I’ve literally had no time to myself (I work (detail removed by moderator) hence my recovery has been slow. I’ve enjoyed having the spare cash though 🙂

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Sent you a PM btw x

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I felt the same for my narc, I felt sorry for him because he wasn’t coping on his own as I basically done everything for him. One of his relatives told me (detail removed by moderator) that they have to stop with him from time to time to keep him company now I can’t help bit laugh about it. He’s got to battle his own demons now hun honestly the sympathy will vanish in time.

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I’m having a bad day too! I found out a few weeks ago mine is seeing someone else and all is going well for now. She’s beautiful and he’s just added her family on fb. I want nothing more to sit this girl down and tell her everything, looking back I’m pretty sure this is the girl he was seeing and making special journeys for buying her dinner with OUR money plus her child. I have reasons to believe she was in my home too when I was working nightshifts and few times he didn’t bother to pick me up from work.

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Forgot to mention he’s met another girl and she has a (detail removed by Moderator) year old boy what I’d give to sit down with her and tell her what her new flame is really like! Ugh.

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Thank you people! It’s amazing what this sort of behaviour from a partner can do to you! He text me just the other day complaining he’s paying all the expenses for the dog and I told him since she’s in his possession yes he will have to pay for her up keep. I’ve also been trying to remove his name from our joint account but he’s dragging his feet with that saying that it’s my problem to sort. He was quick enough adding his name to the account though when we moved into the house! I will see if I can find the books you guys have recommended I was thinking about taking up reading in my spare time anyway 🙂 you’re all so lovely and strong and its good to get confirmation that it’s not me making a big deal out of this! My mom’s friend who told me he was showing signs of narcissistic behaviour recommended this place to me as she was also in an emotionally abuse relationship x

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Thank you x

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Thanks for the replies guys. I do love my new partner we get on great most of the time, I have told him I need more time (not breaking up with him) and he understands and we’ve agreed to take things really slow from now on until I start feeling like my old self again.

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Hun you have to do it, put yourself first I’m sure you’ll have plenty of support by us and family 🙂 be happy x

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Omg the lovebombing…cringe!! He was lovebombing a girl while living with me and having all her gifts delivered to my home, he’d make sure I was in too to collect the deliveries while he was out. I don’t have anyone to talk to ,I work long hours to make ends meet so don’t have much free time these days unfortunately. A few people have mentioned this programme to me I’m sure a family friend attended it too. I may have a look 🙂

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The things I miss about my old life is basically the security I had, he had a stable job, we had a home together and I did love him! It broke me more than anything when he told me he no longer wanted a child with me, when we split up it was like mourning a child I never even had. I asked him if he didn’t love me no more (this is what he told me) why did he Tey getting me pregnant. He just replied because I thought it would make things better for us.

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I’ve never heard of this course if you could give me more info it would be well appreciated! X

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