Dancergirl

[Dancergirl]

Hi, I have just read your message and would like to share with you that your situation is very similar to mine. I too am in a relationship with a man who is all over the place and I’m struggling with depression and anxiety over the way he treats me. We don’t like to admit that we are in love with someone who perhaps has a personality disorder, I have read an off a lot about various disorders including narcissistic personality disorder, and I would suggest that maybe you look it up and see if any of his behaviours match a stereotypical narcissist, I have found that my partner definitely does. I don’t live with mine and I am currently two days into no contact, I feel for my own sanity that I need to break away from him. Please feel free to contact me if you want to chat

[Dancergirl]

I am sorry you are going through this abuse. My partner has many similar traits to yours. (detail removed by Moderator) My partner says really horrible things but if I approach him about it then I’m lecturing him and that starts him off again. Always angry, selfish, uncaring and blames me for everything even though I have helped him in every way possible. I feel used and very unhappy. I’ve said I’ll leave him and I think you should do the same. Change your number as well xx

[Dancergirl]

Thank you for your kind response. I’ve often thought in the past that I’ve been going mad. I have never met anyone like him before, he is so unkind and admitted his thought process behind going no contact is to punish me for whatever he thinks I’ve done. I am so fed up of walking on eggshells. Can anyone explain to me how he thinks he can say what he wants to me, but if I retaliate and ask him if he meant it, or why he said that, he goes in a mood and it all starts again. He is very selfish to, everything is on his terms down to when we meet and where we go. I have realised this is no kind of life once we were having a drink in a public bar and I was in tears, he apologised to me, but then later in a message, he started on me again, when I said I thought everything was okay now because he apologised, he said he had only apologised to stop me crying in public because I was embarrassing him. There is so much wrong with this relationship, it is so toxic am maintaining my silence and will not contact him this time.

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